Labor Day Thoughts for Mindfulness

Today is Labor Day. After tossing and turning all night, at 3:30am, I decide to get out of bed. The mind is a curious thing. I lay in bed thinking, planning and trying to force myself to just shut down and sleep. My brain had other plans. I was thinking about my children, finances, my business,  family dynamics, how to solve world peace (ok, not really), but pretty much everything else. 

I go make a cup of coffee and sit outside in the darkness. As I sit and drink my coffee, I listen. It’s so quiet and serene in my backyard. Even the birds are still asleep. There are no airplanes, cars, voices, tv, or phones pinging. It’s just beautifully quiet and peaceful. I am relaxed and not thinking about what my day is going to entail, or what problems are ahead this week. 

What’s the goal?

My mind wanders to the thought of Monks who take a vow of silence and suddenly I get it! It’s so much easier for me to just relax and clear my head in this silence. There is nothing to distract me, nothing to influence my mood, or CAUSE me to feel uneasy or stressed out. The concept of Meditation which is taught and practiced by any and all “enlightened” or “inspirational” teachings is exactly this: JUST QUIET YOUR MIND.

Why is this so hard to do in our everyday lives? We are humans seeking interaction with everything. All that we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell affects us. We are a programmed species of observers. That being said, we also are not adept at separating what we witness from how we would like to feel. Notice I said , “how we would LIKE to feel”.  Rather, we say, “I feel this way BECAUSE of what I am experiencing”. 

Shield of Protection

In my book, “My Dog is More Enlightened Than I Am”, I discuss the “heart guard”. This is the invisible shield I create around myself that I envision to say, “I won’t let this negative thing or person affect my well-being”.  Yes, it’s easier said than done, but with practice, it trains your thoughts to prepare for what you will observe as you head into an undesirable or unknown situation. 

In Abraham Hicks’ teachings, she states, “If you can’t change a negative thought to a positive one, change to a neutral thought by not thinking about it. In other words, just distract the thought to focus on something else. We can do this by intentionally listening for a specific sound. Our minds then seek a different thought.

Here’s an example: Let’s say you just had an upsetting conversation with a family member. You are thinking about all of the things they said that were hurtful, all of the comebacks you didn’t get to voice. Now stop, go outside, sit down in the grass, close your eyes, and listen for how many different bird calls you can hear. See? you didn’t have to force yourself to stop thinking, you just refocused your conscious mind to reroute. It’s like a GPS for law of attraction. 

Labor of Love

As a Life coach, I am consistently reminding my clients that change takes time. We have established beliefs, thoughts, and habits over a long period of time. We are so hard on ourselves regarding expectations. Whether it’s achieving goals, such as weight loss, addiction, habits, or relationships, we want it NOW! It’s great to stay focused on the end goal, but just recognize the behaviors that have built the “problem”. Then, you will be able to integrate the new patterns of change you want. But be patient with yourself. Be loving and compassionate with who you are and how you got here. 

Imagine yourself in the middle of a crowd and being able to shut out all of the sounds, smells, and sights. That is the mastery you want to achieve. Turning our attention inward is the most important way to control your emotions and actions. 

Enjoy the silence! Listen to YOU! Look in the mirror! Speak  kindly to yourself! Feel mercy and compassion for your journey and what your purpose here means! 

Happy Labor Day! With Love and Blessings, 

29 thoughts on “Labor Day Thoughts for Mindfulness

  1. I like the helpful information you supply to your
    articles. I’ll bookmark your blog and test once more here regularly.

    I’m somewhat certain I’ll be informed a lot of new stuff proper here!

    Good luck for the following!

  2. Pretty nice post. I just stumbled upon your weblog and wanted
    to say that I’ve truly enjoyed surfing around your blog posts.
    In any case I’ll be subscribing to your rss feed and I hope you write again very soon!

  3. Awesome website you have here but I was wanting to know if you knew of any forums that cover the same topics discussed here?

    I’d really love to be a part of group where I can get responses from other experienced individuals
    that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations,
    please let me know. Many thanks!

  4. Hi , I do believe this is an excellent blog. I stumbled upon it on Yahoo , i will come back once again. Money and freedom is the best way to change, may you be rich and help other people.

  5. After exploring a few of the blog articles
    on your website, I honestly appreciate your technique of
    writing a blog. I book-marked it to my bookmark webpage list and will be checking back in the near
    future. Please visit my web site too and tell me your opinion.

  6. I really like what you guys are up too. This kind of clever work and reporting!
    Keep up the wonderful works guys I’ve you guys to my personal blogroll.

  7. I’ve been browsing on-line more than 3 hours today, but I by
    no means found any fascinating article like yours.

    It is pretty worth sufficient for me. Personally, if all webmasters
    and bloggers made good content material as you did, the web might be a lot more helpful than ever

  8. Excellent beat ! I would like to apprentice whilst you amend your web site,
    how can i subscribe for a blog site? The account helped
    me a appropriate deal. I have been a little bit acquainted of this your broadcast offered shiny
    transparent idea

  9. Aᴡ, this was an іncredibly good post. Finding the time and
    ɑctual effort to gеnerate a very good article… but what
    can I say… I hesіtаte a whole lot and never seem to get nearly anything done.

  10. I’m still learning from you, while I’m making my way to the top as well. I definitely enjoy reading everything that is posted on your blog.Keep the information coming. I loved it!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.