What is the one thing we can never get back? Money? Relationships? Jobs?
Time.
Let’s start off by saying, this is not very “Lifecoachy” of me, but my biggest pet peeve is when someone wastes my time! We’ve all been there, right?
You schedule a call and they don’t answer. You have a date and they stand you up. You schedule to meet someone and they are late. You pay money to go somewhere and it gets cancelled.
Notice all of those have YOU and THEY in them? You control what YOU do and have no control over what THEY do.
I’ve had 3 appointments scheduled and they cancelled or no-showed this week… aaaarggghhh! OK, let’s break it down. People are busy. Busy with THEIR stuff.
A good way to deal with these situations is to understand it is about THEM and not you. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react. I have been working on this as these situations happen.
I breathe, note that I can’t really count on that someone, and then I turn it around and say, “more time for me!” I’ll relax and do something that makes me happy so I am not dwelling on the negative feelings that make me feel insulted. This could even be a trigger for some who have dealt with rejection or abandonment issues.
Don’t let it ruin your day. Set your boundaries. Speak your truth. Believe and know that whatever occurs during the course of your day is meant for your purpose of learning and staying in the positive place of peace that you alone can control.
Don’t set expectations based on your perspective of how others should behave. When we try to “wrap our mind” around another’s way of acting, it only instills confusion- you haven’t lived their life and don’t know what they are currently experiencing.
I like giving the benefit of the doubt to others or even creating my own compassion for them. For example, “they probably had an expected illness, family emergency, or inadvertently forgot (who hasn’t?). By doing this, I eliminate any feelings of resentment. If a pattern forms, I can make a decision to disengage from others who aren’t reliable or aware of the value of my time.
Be sure to be the person you want your friends and acquaintances to be. Value others’ time and nurture relationships. Show up for commitments and be the change you want to see in the world. Remember, “Those who matter won’t mind, and those who mind won’t matter.”
Your integrity is not always seen on the outside, but your actions are.
Love and Blessings,
Life Coach Maureen