Ask your partner about their dreams, fears, likes, and dislikes. Childhood favorites and food preferences. It shows your partner you care about what they care about.
Validating your partner and expressing your appreciation for them goes along way! Notice the small things, thank them for a daily chore they did. Just acknowledging your partner’s strengths will make them feel noticed and special.
Be Blessed (Not Stressed)
When things get stressful, turn toward one another for support. Don’t deal with it alone, you are not single. Building trust during the hard times bonds you during the good times.
Share in life’s decisions. Be transparent about choices that affect both of you. Ask your partner for advice and show respect of their opinions (even if they don’t match yours)
I encourage all my couple clients to sit down at the end of day and check-in with something called “couch time.” Ask, how they are feeling? What was good about their day? What was frustrating? How are they feeling physically (have empathy). Make eye contact, remove distractions, hold hands, or rub their shoulders. This validates that you are a “safe space”, and honesty is appreciated and welcomed.
Plan Time Together
This is crucial to maintaining your strongest union. Create rituals for the two of you such as coffee each morning or working out together. Schedule intimacy (yes, I said it). Plan weekly date nights even if it’s just ordering in and sitting on the couch relaxing. When it becomes a routine, you won’t forget to make time for it.