As we head into the busy, crazy, and stressful holiday season. I thought I would share 4 crucial ways to be stress free!
1. Make a List
I suggest this for everyday life, but it is especially important around the holidays. We have so many things on our plate and so many expectations from family that it can be overwhelming!
Make a list of the following: 1. Gifts to buy 2. Events 3. Food and baking 4. Write down at least one FUN thing you will do. Example: Zoolights, Light viewing, See a Christmas Musical. Stick to your list and don’t add anything that will add more stress and anxiety.
2. Don’t “Guilt” Buy
I know we have a lot of friends, acquaintances, and family but we don’t have to buy for everyone! A Christmas card or a token of appreciation is fine. If you get a gift from someone that you didn’t purchase anything for, it’s ok. Simply Thank the person and don’t “feel” bad. If they weren’t on your radar, they probably aren’t a part of your inner circle. I buy for those in my life that have made an impact. It’s a way of saying, “I thought of you because you contributed greatly to my happiness.. Sorry Mr Mailman, you don’t make the cut.
3. Value Your Time and Speak Your Truth
I was recently in my nail salon and started talking (ok coaching) to an older lady next to me. We were discussing holidays and what we would be doing. She voiced that she wanted a quiet home holiday with her husband, but her son would “expect” her to go to his house. They live close by and she sees her son and grandchildren often.
I suggested telling him that she preferred to stay home and that she will gladly join him at Christmas. She stated, “Oh, he’ll be upset”. I asked her if it was what she really wanted and she said well, no. It’s perfectly ok to speak your truth and state what it is you want. By feeling guilty, we put others’ feelings ahead of our own, and that leads to resentment. State it with love, kindness, and compassion and watch how people will surprise you!
4. Enjoy! Enjoy! Enjoy!
I can’t say this enough! Think back to your childhood and past Holidays… what do you remember? Chances are, you remember the time spent with those you love. THAT is the key to finding the most peace and happiness. It’s not the gifts, how many events you can fit in a month’s time, or how much food you consume. When you need a moment to really relax, take it! Go to lunch with an old friend, do a fun craft, or just sit back and listen to some music… you need to stay grounded in joy!
I hope everyone has a wonderful (and relaxing) Holiday Season! I’m grateful for each and every one of you!
Love and Blessings,
Maureen