I’ve recently noticed a trend in what’s happening in society. Although we are talking about inclusivity and encouraging kindness, there’s still a lot of judgement and criticism spilling out.
Check the “Who”
Who is judging and criticizing? Is it someone I trust? Do they uplift and support me or is it a pattern of their behavior? How does this person affect my life? Do they pay my bills or affect my overall wellbeing?
… and the “What?”
Be sure to question this: “Is what is being said, true? Can I take an honest look at myself? Does the person judging me know me well enough to have an opinion of me? Do they have all of the facts? Do they live my life?”
If you speak negatively about yourself or use self-deprecating humor, you may be inviting others to do the same. Try speaking positively about yourself and others will pick up on it as well. Perhaps you even plant a seed for them to do the same.
Evaluate What Really Matters
Ask yourself, “How much do these words matter? Do I want to give energy, time, happiness, and power to someone else’s opinion of me? Is there something better I could focus on and give my thoughts to?”